Hey sisters, 

Life’s journey can take us down unexpected paths, and for me, a significant part of that journey has been learning the profound importance of building a support system. Growing up, I navigated an environment where consistent support was absent. It wasn’t until I ventured into college and beyond that I truly began to understand the transformative power of having people in my corner. Now, I’m incredibly grateful for the support team I’ve intentionally cultivated. This includes my life partner and her amazing daughter, who bring so much joy and stability to my life. I also rely on the guidance and expertise of my dedicated therapist and psychiatrist, who play a crucial role in my mental well-being. And thankfully, some of my siblings have also become integral members of my support network. 

This personal experience has deeply shaped my understanding of community, and this week, I wanted to delve into why building a support system is so fundamental to our overall well-being.  

Think about it. Life throws curveballs – big ones, small ones, and everything in between. Whether you’re navigating career changes, personal struggles, or even celebrating major wins, having a solid support system can make all the difference. It’s about having those people in your corner who understand you, uplift you, and remind you of your strength, especially when you’re feeling less than your best. 

But why is this so crucial? Let’s look at what the research tells us. Studies have consistently shown a strong link between social support and both our physical and mental health. 

For instance, a meta-analysis published in Social Science & Medicine found that individuals with strong social relationships have a 50% increased likelihood of survival compared to those with weak social relationships (Holt-Lunstad et al., 2010). That’s a significant statistic! It highlights that our connections aren’t just nice to have; they can actually impact our longevity. 

Furthermore, research in the Journal of Health and Social Behavior indicates that social support can buffer the negative effects of stress on mental health (Cohen & Wills, 1985). When we face challenging times, knowing we have people to lean on can reduce feelings of anxiety and depression, providing a sense of security and resilience. 

Now, you might be thinking, “Okay, I get it. Community is important. But how do I actually build one?” It’s not always easy, especially in our busy lives. Here are a few thoughts: 

• Look Inward First: What are your needs? What kind of support are you seeking? Understanding this will help you identify the types of connections that will be most beneficial. 

• Nurture Existing Relationships: Don’t underestimate the power of the connections you already have. Reach out to family, friends, or colleagues you feel a bond with. Make an effort to stay connected. 

• Seek Out Shared Interests: Join clubs, groups, or online communities centered around your hobbies or passions. This is a fantastic way to meet like-minded individuals who “get” you. 

• Be Open and Vulnerable (Gradually): Building deeper connections requires a degree of vulnerability. Share your thoughts and feelings authentically and allow others to do the same. Trust is built over time. 

• Be a Good Supporter Yourself: Community is a two-way street. Offer support and encouragement to others. Being there for someone else can strengthen your own sense of belonging. 

Building a strong support system isn’t an overnight process. It takes time, effort, and intentionality. But the rewards – increased resilience, better health, and a greater sense of belonging – are absolutely worth it. 

As we navigate our individual journeys, let’s remember the power of connection. Let’s actively cultivate our communities and lean on each other. Because ultimately, we are stronger together. 

What are your thoughts on building community? Share your experiences and tips in the comments below! 

Stay connected, 

Nayome Gilliard  

References: 

Cohen, S., & Wills, T. A. (1985). Stress, social support, and the buffering hypothesis. Psychological Bulletin, 98(2), 310–357. 

Holt-Lunstad, J., Smith, T. B., & Layton, J. B. (2010). Social relationships and mortality risk: a meta-analytic review. Social Science & Medicine, 70(6), 869–878.